A while ago I put a stop to getting to know this one potentially nice guy on the dating site. My reason: he kept asking me to tell more about myself, while he was not doing his part. I feel that getting to know eachother is a 2 way street. He kept avoiding my questions and requests to tell more about himself, and at some point I had just had enough.
I myself hate it when people just “vanish”, so I sent him this email telling him that I felt he was a potentially nice guy, but that I just can’t deal with people who are that reluctant to open up about themselves. I told him that he could simply nót continuously ask me to tell him about more myself, while he wasn’t returning the favor… come to think of it, he might have done me a favor just then and there, nót telling me about himself…
I digress… Obviously, after sending him that message, I never heard back from him since…
Until a few days ago when he IM-ed me while I was online on the dating site.
Reluctant Guy: “Hi, how are you?”
DutchBitch: “I am fine. How are you?“
RG: “Fine“
DB: “OK”
RG: “Yeah, I’m fine”
DB: “Good“
RG: “So you’re fine too?”
DB: “Yes“
RG: “So you’re still on here?”
DB: “Yes, you too apparently“
RG: “Yes”
DB: *silence*
RG: “So, you had any dates?”
DB: “Look, what is it exactly that you are contacting me for?“
RG: “Well, I just wanted to know how you are doing. Despite what happened, I still like you”
DB: “I am doing fine“
RG: “I was kinda baffled by that email you sent me a few months ago”
DB: “Oh really?“
RG: “Well, it was so… um… extensive… It was like you were ending a 5 year relationship
DB: “It was just a short email explaining why I felt it was not working out between us. I believe in explaining myself instead of just vanishing off the face of the earth. I guess most people don’t work that way and that is why you are not úsed to getting an email like that“
RG: “Well, you don’t know me, so you can’t know anything about me to draw conclusions like you were in the email”
DB: “I wasn’t drawing any conclusions, I was explaining why I felt it wasn’t going anywhere. And as far as not knowing anything about you is concerned: if you remember correctly that was exáctly what was bothering me. You were extremely reluctant to tell me anything about yourself, though at the same time you were continuously wanting me to tell more and more about myself”
RG: “Well, you don’t know whý I didn’t”
DB: “Well, I didn’t know because YOU didn’t tell me, right?“
RG: “Well, still no reason for such a pretentious email”
DB: “The email was not pretentious, you just took it that way, which is obviously your problem“
RG: “No reason to get upset, I just contacted you to find out how you are doing…”
DB: “Oh please! At least be man enough to admit you had no intention of that. You just contacted me to fry me over putting an end to our contact on the dating site“
RG: “Well, there was no reason to do so. That was just plain stupid. You are just a friggin’ pretentious bitch!”
DB: *blocking dickhead’s ass*
I think the men on the dating site are handpicked for their level of fucktardness… They must be… Because I’ve checked my profile and there is no “especially fucktards please respond” in there… Not even when you read it backwards…!!!
