Comments on: Gobsmacked… http://thedutchfiles.com/2008/10/gobsmacked/ From zero to bitch in 3 seconds... Thu, 09 Sep 2010 20:56:59 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: delmer http://thedutchfiles.com/2008/10/gobsmacked/comment-page-1/#comment-10950 delmer Thu, 16 Oct 2008 18:26:35 +0000 http://thedutchfiles.com/?p=2621#comment-10950 My divorce was really rather tame, though it still sucked the life out of me. Two of my friends are currently in divorces in which their soon-to-be exes can only be described as insane. God ... they make mine look like a walk in the park. <abbr><em>delmers last blog post..<a href="http://www.delmer.com/?p=1511" rel="nofollow">I know you miss these</a></abbr></em> My divorce was really rather tame, though it still sucked the life out of me.

Two of my friends are currently in divorces in which their soon-to-be exes can only be described as insane. God … they make mine look like a walk in the park.

delmers last blog post..I know you miss these

]]> By: DutchBitch http://thedutchfiles.com/2008/10/gobsmacked/comment-page-1/#comment-10920 DutchBitch Wed, 15 Oct 2008 06:34:44 +0000 http://thedutchfiles.com/?p=2621#comment-10920 Agent Elle: Hmm I wouldn't mind a lottery win :wink: Marty: Farts? Would you wanna divide those in the event of a divorce as well? Agent Elle: Hmm I wouldn’t mind a lottery win :wink:

Marty: Farts? Would you wanna divide those in the event of a divorce as well?

]]> By: marty http://thedutchfiles.com/2008/10/gobsmacked/comment-page-1/#comment-10916 marty Wed, 15 Oct 2008 04:38:05 +0000 http://thedutchfiles.com/?p=2621#comment-10916 I am petrified to get married because I am afraid of being soaked in a divorce. Men are definitely at a disadvantage. My thought is to do a prenuptial agreement. Any thoughts? (this is too serious Dutchie, can I mention farting?) <abbr><em>martys last blog post..<a href="http://thelifeofmarty.blogspot.com/2008/10/facebook-texas-cheat-em-6.html" rel="nofollow">Facebook Texas Cheat Em- #6</a></abbr></em> I am petrified to get married because I am afraid of being soaked in a divorce. Men are definitely at a disadvantage.

My thought is to do a prenuptial agreement. Any thoughts?

(this is too serious Dutchie, can I mention farting?)

martys last blog post..Facebook Texas Cheat Em- #6

]]> By: Agent Elle http://thedutchfiles.com/2008/10/gobsmacked/comment-page-1/#comment-10915 Agent Elle Tue, 14 Oct 2008 21:33:14 +0000 http://thedutchfiles.com/?p=2621#comment-10915 Agreed. I think it's disgusting. I'm separated myself and although my ex has a house, I wouldn't dream of trying to take it, even though I probably could. Being nasty is simply pointless, and surely you have more dignity being civilised and fair than bleeding someone dry? I know of people who have done this; my own father included. Taken everything they possibly can, and it's horrible. Though you want to know the best story? The girlfriend of my cousin lived with her mum and brothers as their evil dad walked out on them. He wanted half the value of the house, and forced it on them. The mother (Jen) asked him not to do this until after Christmas, but did he wait? No. The whole family; mum and three teenage kids had to stay in a hostel during Christmas. How evil can you get? The best part? A few months later, Jen won £6million on the National Lottery. I would give anything just to see the look on that man's face when he found out the ex he dumped and left in a hostel is now a millionaire. (Off topic slight,y but a true story of karma!) ;) Agreed. I think it’s disgusting. I’m separated myself and although my ex has a house, I wouldn’t dream of trying to take it, even though I probably could. Being nasty is simply pointless, and surely you have more dignity being civilised and fair than bleeding someone dry?

I know of people who have done this; my own father included. Taken everything they possibly can, and it’s horrible. Though you want to know the best story?

The girlfriend of my cousin lived with her mum and brothers as their evil dad walked out on them. He wanted half the value of the house, and forced it on them. The mother (Jen) asked him not to do this until after Christmas, but did he wait? No.

The whole family; mum and three teenage kids had to stay in a hostel during Christmas. How evil can you get?

The best part?

A few months later, Jen won £6million on the National Lottery. I would give anything just to see the look on that man’s face when he found out the ex he dumped and left in a hostel is now a millionaire.

(Off topic slight,y but a true story of karma!) ;)

]]> By: DutchBitch http://thedutchfiles.com/2008/10/gobsmacked/comment-page-1/#comment-10913 DutchBitch Tue, 14 Oct 2008 19:18:19 +0000 http://thedutchfiles.com/?p=2621#comment-10913 John: Completely agree with you. It's just no use to spend your life wallowing in negative emotions... John: Completely agree with you. It’s just no use to spend your life wallowing in negative emotions…

]]> By: John http://thedutchfiles.com/2008/10/gobsmacked/comment-page-1/#comment-10912 John Tue, 14 Oct 2008 19:01:40 +0000 http://thedutchfiles.com/?p=2621#comment-10912 Totally, TOTALLY, agree. Not just because I'm a man or an ex-husband (I would feel the same if the gender roles were reversed) but because it's just wrong. My ex and I parted on very amicable terms and I will be eternally grateful for that. We split everything 50/50 and will forever be good friends. I understand that not every marriage can end on agreeable terms, but divorce is bad enough in and of itself without heaping on more ugliness. Unfortunately, too many people have NO understanding of this. No matter how we're ever wronged, peace always begins with ourselves. : ) <abbr><em>Johns last blog post..<a href="http://buddhaontheroad.blogspot.com/2008/10/hey-im-down-with-anything-that-has.html" rel="nofollow">Hey, I'm Down with Anything That has Penguins</a></abbr></em> Totally, TOTALLY, agree. Not just because I’m a man or an ex-husband (I would feel the same if the gender roles were reversed) but because it’s just wrong. My ex and I parted on very amicable terms and I will be eternally grateful for that. We split everything 50/50 and will forever be good friends. I understand that not every marriage can end on agreeable terms, but divorce is bad enough in and of itself without heaping on more ugliness. Unfortunately, too many people have NO understanding of this. No matter how we’re ever wronged, peace always begins with ourselves. : )

Johns last blog post..Hey, I’m Down with Anything That has Penguins

]]> By: DutchBitch http://thedutchfiles.com/2008/10/gobsmacked/comment-page-1/#comment-10911 DutchBitch Tue, 14 Oct 2008 18:51:30 +0000 http://thedutchfiles.com/?p=2621#comment-10911 CMGD: Well, see, I totally respect that. And I find it commendable that your mind works that way that you would state "until I find a job"... So many women would never think that way. It's exactly the way I felt: no connection, no guilt trips... nothing... CMGD: Well, see, I totally respect that. And I find it commendable that your mind works that way that you would state “until I find a job”… So many women would never think that way. It’s exactly the way I felt: no connection, no guilt trips… nothing…

]]> By: Coal Miner's Granddaughter http://thedutchfiles.com/2008/10/gobsmacked/comment-page-1/#comment-10910 Coal Miner's Granddaughter Tue, 14 Oct 2008 18:49:02 +0000 http://thedutchfiles.com/?p=2621#comment-10910 I'm with you. If something were ever to happen between me and Ty, I would just want out. No connection to him, no dealings, nothing. Now, with me being a SAHM, I would need child-support and some alimony until I could find a job to take care of me and the kids, but after that? I'm with you. As little financial connection to him, to give him something to guilt me with, as possible. Sorry your friends are going through this. It's got to be completely maddening. <abbr><em>Coal Miner's Granddaughters last blog post..<a href="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/coalminersgd/~3/420170784/open-letter-7.html" rel="nofollow">Open Letter 7</a></abbr></em> I’m with you. If something were ever to happen between me and Ty, I would just want out. No connection to him, no dealings, nothing. Now, with me being a SAHM, I would need child-support and some alimony until I could find a job to take care of me and the kids, but after that? I’m with you. As little financial connection to him, to give him something to guilt me with, as possible.

Sorry your friends are going through this. It’s got to be completely maddening.

Coal Miner’s Granddaughters last blog post..Open Letter 7

]]> By: DutchBitch http://thedutchfiles.com/2008/10/gobsmacked/comment-page-1/#comment-10909 DutchBitch Tue, 14 Oct 2008 18:47:01 +0000 http://thedutchfiles.com/?p=2621#comment-10909 Turnbaby: keep preaching, girl! Cinnkitty: Well, we divided everything EXCEPT for a debt that I never knew off that The Ex had run up without every notifying me, to pay for our holidays. I refused to split that debt, as I would not have been going on holiday if it meant getting into debt and he never conferred with me about it. I can imagine that you feel that way. My ex had himself declared bankrupt and is going on holiday after holiday after holiday with his g/f when he's not paying childsupport... So yeah... I know the feeling... Turnbaby: keep preaching, girl!

Cinnkitty: Well, we divided everything EXCEPT for a debt that I never knew off that The Ex had run up without every notifying me, to pay for our holidays. I refused to split that debt, as I would not have been going on holiday if it meant getting into debt and he never conferred with me about it. I can imagine that you feel that way. My ex had himself declared bankrupt and is going on holiday after holiday after holiday with his g/f when he’s not paying childsupport… So yeah… I know the feeling…

]]> By: Cinnkitty http://thedutchfiles.com/2008/10/gobsmacked/comment-page-1/#comment-10908 Cinnkitty Tue, 14 Oct 2008 18:40:25 +0000 http://thedutchfiles.com/?p=2621#comment-10908 I watched my Mom bleed her way through 9 (count them NINE) divorces and she sucked those guys dry of not only their money but their will to live. She's evil that way. No really, she is. Me? I went the opposite route. For my divorce I actually split ALL of our debt straight down the middle, to include anything house related. Plus I gave him the house and all it's contents. I literally walked out with my clothes, cat, car, computer and coffee maker. NOW, I'm drowning trying to pay off the debt I took on from the divorce and I find out he's been making shit tons of money this whole time and spending it on lavish gifts for his girlfriend (who was the wife of one of our best friends at the time of their "hook up"). So.... while I did the right thing in my heart and my head.. DAMN I'm pissed about it. Wait.. is this the part where I'm supposed to curse you Dutchie? ha..ha.ha... :mrgreen: <abbr><em>Cinnkittys last blog post..<a href="http://pinkpiddypaws.com/2008/10/14/from-the-fiery-depths-of-hell-i-stab-at-thee/" rel="nofollow">From the fiery depths of Hell I stab at thee!</a></abbr></em> I watched my Mom bleed her way through 9 (count them NINE) divorces and she sucked those guys dry of not only their money but their will to live. She’s evil that way. No really, she is.

Me? I went the opposite route.
For my divorce I actually split ALL of our debt straight down the middle, to include anything house related. Plus I gave him the house and all it’s contents. I literally walked out with my clothes, cat, car, computer and coffee maker.

NOW, I’m drowning trying to pay off the debt I took on from the divorce and I find out he’s been making shit tons of money this whole time and spending it on lavish gifts for his girlfriend (who was the wife of one of our best friends at the time of their “hook up”).

So…. while I did the right thing in my heart and my head.. DAMN I’m pissed about it.

Wait.. is this the part where I’m supposed to curse you Dutchie? ha..ha.ha… :mrgreen:
Cinnkittys last blog post..From the fiery depths of Hell I stab at thee!

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