Aug 25
Nekkid Finger
Some of you might have seen me tweet over the past few days that I felt nekkid without the most important ring in my life on my finger…
Meet the most important ring in my life, it’s back:
No, it’s not my wedding ring. I’ve been pretttty happy not wearing that for the past err.. 6.5 years. I am no longer married and that’s fine by me. Nope, it’s not a ring given to me by The Guy. I mean, WTF? Give him a break! We’ve been together since March. Plenty of time for that…
This ring is VERY special to me though, and no matter what rings I acquire in my lifetime, I am sure that this one will remain one of the most important ones I have. The ring consists of yellow and red gold and the yellow gold comes from my Dad’s wedding band. After my dad passed away on February 21, 1996, we had his weddingband divided in 3 parts and 3 identical rings were made. This is one of them. The other two are owned by The Sis and The Mom. It’s a wonderful reminder of my father and very special to me as it carries the gold out of his wedding band. I have worn it every day ever since…
However, I was about 65 pounds bigger at the time… I used to wear it on my ring finger and had changed it to my middle finger when I started losing weight. For the past years, after reaching my target weight I was still wearing it on my middle finger, but it was about 2 ring sizes too big… Ask The Guy… it was a ridiculous sight… way too big for my finger… and it kept almost falling off…
I was extremely reluctant to have it resized though. As I knew that would mean taking out a part of the ring to make it smaller. A part that too would hold gold out of the wedding band of my father. It just didn’t feel good. Then on the other hand, like The Kid pointed out to me the other day: “But HOW would you feel if one day you would look at your hand and it would be gone?”… I decided he was right.
I also decided to take the ring back to the goldsmith that had actually made the ring. So I did on Thursday. I explained how reluctant I was to have a part taken out of it to make it smaller, but that I would be even more heartbroken if I would lose it all together… He told me that he could resize it, but that indeed he would have to take a few mm out. With an aching heart and a nekkid finger I left the ring at the goldsmith.
I picked it back up from there on Saturday. The ring looks awesome! You can’t see where the piece has been taken out at all. It fits like a glove on my middle finger where I decided to wear it from now on. And it shines like its never done before (well, probably it did the first time it came from the goldsmith as well, but you get my drift)… My finger does not feel nekkid anymore!
And the added bonus? Just when I was ready to make the payment and leave the store, the goldsmith dangled a tiny plastic bag in front of me… It held the piece that he had taken out. He had saved it for me. He had gone out of his way to take it out as “clean cut” as he possibly could (instead of melting out the part as he usually does) and he had saved it for me! So ALL Of the ring went back home with me, just not all on my finger.
That put a huge smile on my face on a day that had not started out that well at all. I love it when people go all considerate on you when you least expect it. It’s a beautiful thing, ain’t it?
All the way reading your post I was expecting this happy ending, I could feel it, maybe thanks to the emotion you expressed by writing it.
Things like that bring a ray of sunshine into our hearts
FroggyWoogies last blog post..The Good the Bad and the Ugly
I love this! What a fabulous idea to even have 3 rings made in the first place. I would absolutely treasure something like that too. I’m really happy that you’re not about to lose it anytime, that wouldn’t be worth thinking about!
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FroggyWoogie: I guess it must’ve been. I loved the happy ending too!
Penelope: Yeah, it was The Sis’ idea actually (I think), and I never ever wanna lose it. To be without it for 3 days was hard enough.
Now that’s what I call “customer service”! How cool was it when he gave you that baggie with the piece in it?
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That was a beautiful story, it made me cry (I am so emotional lately) I have both my parents rings as my dad gave me his last year since it was a year that my mom passed. I want to do something with them but no clue what.
They are wide gold textured bands with a platinum trim. I hate that they just sit in a drawer in my jewelry box. 
Awwwwww..kudos to your jeweler! he rocks!
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Damn it! Don’t make me cry first thing in the morning!
This is such a beautiful idea, and I’m glad the goldsmith was able to to save the bit for you. It’s things like that which make you know that there’s still goodness in the world.
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Awww…that’s a wonderful ring.
Wonderful sentiment!
I’m glad you’re not naked any more….well I mean your finger!
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Oh, oh…that is such a precious story…and a precious ring. I’m sitting here at my desk at work all teary-eyed now. My daddy passed in ‘91, so I completely understand how special this is.
Beautiful. Just beautiful.
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Blondefabulous: It was vewwwwy cool!
AndiMAC: well, we had my dad’s ring melted and made into those 3 rings, after we talked to the goldsmith. They usually have wonderful ideas.
CinnKitty: He does!
Finn: Yeah it is. And right in time, after such bumming weeks
And ehm… it wasn’t first thing in the morning here!
Robin: It is, I love it.
Metalmom: Uh Huh, at least I have the ring on my finger
Ginger: Thanks, sorry it made you teary eyed…
Good for you, and I so know how you feel about your ring. When my father passed I did the same with one of his ring. I had 2 rings made out using the diamonds, one for my mom and myself. That ring means the world to me. And, I have my dad’s wedding band as well, that I wear on my thumb. That jeweller deserves your business.
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What a beautiful idea, a beautiful ring, & wow, what an awesome jeweler!!
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Awww, it’s so beautiful!!! And what a beautiful sentiment behind it. Rob’s right about being careful about losing it. Better to be sure it fits.
My Rob lost his orignal wedding ring in the ocean when he lost weight. Broke my heart. We replaced it right away but it’ll never be the same.
stinkypaw: Aww those are wonderful things to have, right?
Tugh: Ohhwww yeah
BlondeBlogger: OMG that is awful… I can imagine that it’s never quite the same again, but then, bettter lose the ring than the guy, right?
That is a very cool thing to do with your dad’s ring. I like it. But I can’t say I’ve ever heard of red gold. Weird.
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kapgar: Hey, just cuz you’ve never heard of it, it’s not automatically classified as weird, ok? I don’t wear “weird” on my finger! I guess in English it’s called Rose Gold: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rose_gold